Surprise! Surprise! I was just watching this TV program where a series of experiments were conducted to prove the hypothesis that the public responds more favorably to a good looking person than a plain looking one. The good looking person made more sales, would have a better chance of getting a job pitted against a plain looking person with equal qualifications, and so on. What I did notice in this entire charade was this: the good looking people in all the experiments also carried themselves with more confidence. By the other extreme, the plain looking people were clearly self-conscious and dealt with people either nervously or with some hesitation. This got me thinking: could it be what really wins other people over is someone with confidence and not really good looks? Could a plain looking person be just as successful as a good looking one if they could develop the same level of confidence?
A psychologist on the same program said that children, no matter how good looking, would end up believing they are ugly if they were brought up to feel that way. That’s when I realized it all makes sense: children brought up being praised for their good looks develop the confidence they take with them into adulthood. As adults, they face the world with the confidence they developed during childhood. I think this is where common sense comes in: people prefer to deal with someone having a positive attitude than someone full of self-doubt.
So do good-looking people really get more breaks? Yes, but not because they’re good looking, but because they have the confidence to go after the break. They have the confidence to believe they deserve it. Are plain looking people always left with the short end of the stick? No – only when they’re not willing to apply themselves to get the longer end of the stick (no pun intended). Only when they choose to back down because of some negative emotion holding them back.